Woman

Today my Italian friend suddenly asked my opinion about women. About the role of women in life. About the duty of women in life. About how women look at their lives."And you", he said. "What your life for?" I was amazed. No wind no rain why in sudden he asked about women. He soon straight replied, "You're a woman." Oh… okay. I answer. But this is a tough question. So I told him, “I'll think first, maybe tomorrow you could read on my blog”.

Hmm ... but these really a heavy question. I rather doubt how to told my opinion about it in simple way.

But maybe I could start from the first question. Wonder who woman?

The woman is 'one part of two which in pair', and the two which in pair are true in life. Black-white, cold-hot, low-high, dark-light, woman-man. That's it. So women are the truth in life.

The second question, what is the role of women in life?

Their role are to maintain the continuity of life. Women function as a case container base of life. Women pregnant—give birth. The seed from men. Seed alone without case container, could not live. But as part of two which in pair, women alone could not function without men. This is women's role in life. In nowadays the role looked as if it could be replaced by a machine by what so called 'human cloning', but it have a different result because cloning not able to continue life. Function as a means to preserved life disappeared, and ended in the existence of the cloning alone. That's why I never support this technology.

But when looking at it fundamentally it's just that. That the role of women in life are; maintaining the continuity of life by being a case container base of life to sustain and continue and nurture life.

The third question what is the duty of women in life?

As one part of two which in pair, then the obligation is as a couple for one other part. Duty -- obligation. So in life, marriage become a duty. Because that is the only way a woman could do her duty to become as one part of the two which in pair.

The other obligation related to 'being a part of the two which in pair'. Simple language be called as the obligation of a wife. And it could summarized as;

-  Staunch serve the husband and taking care of the household. In a sense a wife is responsible for the happiness of her husband and the whole family. Be a place of comfort and rely on. Become a place to complain and croon. And ensuring all member of the family could be fulfilled emotionally, mentally and spiritually. This is the wife's most serious responsibility. Because all this demanded a wife which an educated and wise woman.

- Support her husband and always trust him fully. In the household may be a wife who in charge, but outside the household  it is husband who must take decision and take full responsibility for the household. So the affairs of making a living, connecting with the community, and decide everything for his family is in the hand of the husband.

Only this in summary, the duty and obligation of the wife thus the duty and obligation of women. And when a woman do this, she would be said had done her duty as a woman in life already.

The fourth question, how do women look at life?

Well, for this last question the answer would be very subjective. Really from my perspective, from my life experience. The three previous question I had answer objectively because that is the conclusion in life. But this last question is a question that is 'ongoing' so the answer still subjective.

So I answered from my point of view--. 

I looked at this life are beautiful in all the clutter in it. I saw life are perfect in all the chaos that is in it. I saw that life are ordered in its disorder.

I saw that life that walk on world, very diversed,  about the appearance of its dweller, the way they speak, the way their associating and behaving, the way they looking at things, which in the end would easily for us to saw these people as different groups. But it really only enriched life.

Then these different groups connected and had intercommunication which in turn created much chaos over the world and made world stories so complicated that, in the long history of this world, the complexity of the story usually begin from women.

I've read a joke that sounded like this which perfectly described what I written in those two paragraph lightly and funny;

"Life are like a penis, hanging freely. And women make it hard. " --- Ha..ha..ha... but well .. life is like that exactly. 

I have more young man friends. Why? The answer are simple, because men are simple. I found it easier to talk to them, easier to take care of things with them. That is all. I'm not a tomboy girl, I just too frank and men are more receptive to my candor. So I once asked my friends, what their opinion about the joke. They answered, "Very very true". 

And well .. even though it's a rather rough joke, but it's truly true. It’s called life. 

When I asked them what their opinion about the joke, they merely added; "Can not live with them, can not live without them". It's really ironic to heard. But I a woman. I more humoroused and amused to heard these joke. And I only try found the proof from the stories I read around the world. And indeed it’s true …pal. 

All that expressed in those sentences are true. But I be so slipped out from the mark, yes ? Let's get serious again. 

The woman herself never saw life as a burden. She just needed someone who loved her and taken care of her, then it’s good. She would surely given her love more and more as a switch change. No calculation. Only not much today men which reserved the right to this kind of dressing. Many men forgot their obligations as men or husband. Many deliberately abandoned it, and many more did not know what their obligation as men or husband are. This is harrowed thing. 

I myself end up in conclusion that the turmoil and disorder of the world today only begin with men and women who not known what their responsibilities are. 

The life of women today are very painful because of this situation. Wasted unavailing by her own husband are a stale story. Being treated rudely are the usual thing. Being the backbone of the family while her husband just eat and sleep easy to see and encounter in every day life. Some are brainwashed by the wrong sense and must accepted it wholeheartedly. 

In the past, when I was younger, -- I've been more careful judging life now --I could easily railed and blamed these people. What I wrote in the above paragraph. But now I could see that it's just life's story. I just have to accepted as what it is. Yet the circumstances mentioned above are often asked to me when I give a dharma preach. Especially about polygamy related to the brainwashing women had by young girl who in love with her Islam boyfriend.

I used to say I refused polygamy. If you prompt me to accepted polygamy, you must accepted polyandry also. Then we're good.

Now, I still say ". If you force me to accepted polygamy, you must accepted polyandry also. Then we're good ", I just would not blame those who accepted polygamy. Every one must have their own reason. 

But there a story in my tradition -- in Hindu tradition -- about woman who have 5 husband. And for my surprised ... I met the same story happening today in the isolated villages of the Tibetan mountains. I read about it in National Geographic. A woman in that area generally become the wife of several men in one family. And it is accepted as a common social value of society and not invited debate or question marks. Just because of their geographic circumstances that made them very difficult to connect with people from outside, so if there already one man from one family get a wife from the outside, then his wife would be the wife of his brothers also for the practicality of life. Their population are more male. More baby boys survive than baby girls because of the harsh climate.

The old story in Hindu tradition also occured because of 'circumstances'. So if not for certain circumstances, then this practice not done. 

But still I have to made my mind to conclude my answer to this question. So my conclusion for how women look at life are; she just want to be happy with the person she loved, until old age there always a place to take refuge and lean on. That's it. 

Then why should I told you about the woman who have 5 husband? No clue. Incidentally stucked in my story. It's called intermezzo in writing. Think light, be happy. 

And last the final question, (lucky me he just asked 5 question, more I would had a headace.. ..)

what I want for my life?

Hmmm.....I just want to be happy. And be loved. Be with they're who loved me. I want to give my work and creation to the world, I want to give kindness to the world. Only that. Exaggerated hope, no ? Nah..... I believe somewhat I found a way to make it.

And heard my last answered my Italian friend laughed  happily but fishy suspiction. What's on his mind, I wonder ???

Well ... .this writing are for my friends. But ... I think it's good to read publicly also. I was told earlier that I would answer him by asked him to read in my blog. But I told him so, just to buy some time so I had time to think to answered. But I changed my mind now. I published. So be like this.

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